I want to kick VEF. You are free to make it clear that you and your family are happy to accept invitations to bond around friendship and you have clear boundaries about your own choices regarding asks for money and worship and where you put your energies. :-P Or, you know, to be sick and not go. Or, you know, to be well and not go. :-P'''''''''''''''''

HA HA HA you could also use the opportunity to ask HER for help regarding funding or resources for things that are way more tedious and less glamorous than whatever she's got going on. You could overwhelm her with it. HA. Just kidding.