You know, I'm conflicted too; I also really enjoy my own femininity and do think we all need encouragement to enjoy our own sexuality in a more public way, one that embraces the LGBTQ and kink communities as well as cis-gender, straight communities. I almost wrote that into this post, but I wanted to keep it short/tight/readable, and that admission kind of took me off into another aspect of the problem.

I really love my bright red lipstick, sling-back heels and body-con clothing (as does L, which makes me love them all the more) and I'm happy that women can revel in their beauty in a way men can't revel in theirs. I like being a sexual creature, and I'm not quite sure how to resolve the conflict; after all, isn't the way I like to dress (and the fact I love to dress up at all) my own generation's way of doing the same thing younger women do online regarding self-presentation? I guess the main distinction is that I don't think any of us seek to define and represent ourselves solely in the realm of the sexual.